It’s really not uncommon for couples to have a disproportion when it comes to libido. Sexual desire can fluctuate a great deal over time, and it may coincide with major events in life, like illness, moving house, changing jobs, or becoming a parent.

While most men always seem to be primed for sex, low libido in women seems to be a lot more common. Medical professionals coined the term ‘Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder’ (HSDD), a sexual dysfunction that causes low sex drive in women of all ages.

HSDD is caused by both physical and mental factors. The inevitable happens as we age, our hormones decline and our bodies change, but relationship issues and stress can take their toll in the bedroom too.

If you’re alarmed by your low libido, talk to your doctor. There might just be a simple solution for your concerns.

So, what are the symptoms of HSDD?

  • little or no interest in sexual activity
  • few or no sexual thoughts and fantasies
  • lack of interest in initiating sex
  • not getting any pleasure from sex
  • lack of satisfying sensations from stimulation

What causes HSDD?

HSDD can have one or many underlying causes, the main culprits normally are the following:

Physical causes

  • Illness
  • Medication
  • Lifestyle habits
  • Surgery
  • Fatigue

Hormonal changes

  • Menopause
  • Pregnancy and breast-feeding

Psychological causes

  • Anxiety and/or depression
  • Stress, work and financial
  • Poor body image
  • Low self-esteem
  • History of physical or sexual abuse
  • Prior negative sexual experiences

Relationship issues

  • Lack of intimacy and connection
  • Unsolved issues
  • Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences
  • Mistrust

How to find help

If your lack of interest in sex continues, please contact your health care professional for advice. The underlying cause of your low sexual desire will determine the treatment options. They can range from hormonal treatment, to sex therapy or couples counselling, or medication.