In the stressful times we live with constant running around and running out of time, Tantra is the perfect antidote to that boring routine and staleness that sets into romantic relationships.
Tantric sex is an ancient Hindu practice, and means ‘the weaving and expansion of energy’. This beautiful art of conscious, sacred sexuality has been practiced for thousands of years by Tantric couples in order to attain authentic love and passionate connection. It can lead to powerful orgasms (although the Big O is not the objective). It’s a feast of enjoyment, and as long as you’re both experiencing plenty of it, you’re on the right track!
Anyone today can draw from the ancient reservoir of knowledge and wisdom of our ancient ancestors! Have an open mind and open heart, even if something seems silly to you at first, mostly have fun! Read on for our beginners tips.
- Make Time For A Weekly Session. Take time out of your busy schedule once a week to focus on your partner and reach spiritual enlightenment.
2.Set The Mood by creating an environment free from disturbance, a calm, quiet and peaceful room. Your sacred space should be clean of clutter, but warm and inviting. Since you will be naked, the room should be warm. Play soft music, light a few candles, and get comfortable.
3.Sit down in Yab-Yum pose. This customary Tantric pose is a wonderful way to connect closely with your partner. This can be done by: (a) sitting cross-legged across from a partner with knees touching, (b) sitting with one partner’s legs wrapped around the other’s torso, or (c) with one partner sitting on the others lap, legs wrapped around each other. Embrace each other and breathe fully together. Allow your bodies to tune in to each other and join together in this beautiful embrace.
4.Breathe. Once in position, hold each other, look into each other’s eyes, and simply breathe. Breathe in and out purposefully, paying attention to your lover’s rhythm. As you continue to breathe together, you become closer spiritually, more relaxed, and more in tune. The more attuned you are, the more aware and connected you become.
5.Give or receive a Tantric massage. Caress, stroke, lick, touch, kiss or otherwise tease and enjoy each other. You can take turns with a slow, seductive massage or simply sit and touch each other leisurely. Pay homage to your lover’s body – all of it. That means ears, nose, neck, stomach, thighs, feet, and so on. The goal is to become familiar and aroused by the whole person, not just the genitals.
6.At this point, you both may decide to make love – or not. If not, simply lay in each other’s embrace, and share your feelings in a soft, loving conversation.
If you do choose to make love, do not hurry it. Let it happen naturally and without any effort. Bring yourself to a heightened state of arousal and then let yourself down, meaning when you feel climax nearing, stop and breathe, come down a bit, and then carry on. This not only builds an incredible state of sexual tension, but it also develops self-control, heightens the emotional connection, and makes the final release ten times more intense. Eventually, both partners will get to the point when they have to release. Since Tantric sex involves a total connection, as you are preparing to release your sexual tension, make sure to look deeply into your lover’s eyes, feel their breathing, and communicate your feelings. When you’re connected this way, the let-go will be totally overwhelming. Orgasm does not mean that the journey ends though. Take the time to connect with one another, and your own road to enlightenment will begin.
