One of the best things about steady romantic relationships is that they provide comfort in the crazy world we live in. They can get also get a little ho-hum. Many couples lose that knee-quaking excitement they felt when they first fell madly in love. If your love life has gone stale, it’s time for the antidote: Shake things up. A lot.
Its fun to stoke the fires of your relationship. Give up some of the complacency that’s settled by adding some sugar and spice.
When you’ve lost that loving feeling you can:
Crank up the sensuality
Hot sex is great, but sensuality is luscious. Call in sick to work and spend the day together – naked. Make a comfy space on the floor in front of the television. Add pillows, a duvet, chocolate and bubbly, or whatever tickles your fancy. Snuggle together, skin-to-skin, through a couple of your favourite movies. You’re sure to end up with a hot session of sweaty pillow play.
Take it to the hotel
Getting out of the house gives you freedom to concentrate on each other (instead of thinking about the mountains of laundry). Check into a hotel for a night. There’s nothing like room service and sex in a strange bed to add some sizzle. If you want to save cash, camp out on your living room floor or under the stars in your backyard instead.
Sex in different places
Have sex in unusual places. If you normally do the act in the bedroom, switch to the couch, shower, kitchen floor, or anywhere taboo. Do it on the back seat of your car. Don’t be shy now.
Bedroom rules
Lay down a few rules to keep things hot. For example, no making use of the same sex position more than twice in one week – it will keep you from being stuck in the same boring routine. Play with toys. Pull out a vibrator (or a blindfold, ropes, handcuffs or massage oil) and play together. Be creative and keep things fun.
Play the stranger’s game
Agree to meet your partner at a swanky bar, but pretend you don’t know each other. Your partner spots you, the hot stranger, across the room and tries to pick you up. Make it fun by resisting a little, but for optimum results you want your partner’s efforts to be successful. Play the game as yourselves, or pretend you’re having a wanton affair!
Role play
Okay, well then try dressing up in a costume and role play that way. You can be the pretty police officer looking to cuff him or the naughty nurse taking his temperature while getting him hot at the same time. Whatever it is, have fun and be creative with it…and do it often so that he wonders which of your hot personalities he’ll be lucky enough to meet next.
Sensual massage
Get naked and give each other a sensual massage without focusing on sex. Pleasure each other and let your fingers linger around the erogenous zones for a while. As long as the focus is on helping your partner orgasm, it’ll make both of you feel good.
Erotica
The mind is the biggest sexual organ we have. Read an erotic story together. Share your fantasies and imagine it together. It’ll be a bigger turn-on than you think.
Whatever your fancy, enjoy the bliss of romance, and work on keeping the passion boiling with new and raunchy things to try together.
